Saturday, January 24, 2009

my worse dental experience EVER!

First let me supply a disclaimer: Though my good friend, Shae, was the one who recommended this particular dentist to me, I in no way blame her or have any ill will towards her. This has nothing to do with her!

I made an appointment for X-rays and an exam with Dr. Ponce at Las Vegas Oral Surgery on Thursday morning at 8am. I was really excited and a bit frightened because I haven't been to the dentist in years and now that I am insured I was gung-ho about getting my teeth taken care of.

My boyfriend came with me because I had asked if the dentist did sedation dentistry and the receptionist said yes, so I wasn't sure if anything was to be done that day, and if I'd need a ride home. He doesn't have to be at work until 11:15 so I knew it would be fine.

Thus, the morning began walking into the waiting room, at 7:50, which reeeked of cigarette smoke. My bf made a comment, but I figured the old man who was there may have been a smoker and I'm used to that sort of thing in Vegas. It was kind of odd to have it THAT strong in a nearly deserted medical waiting room that early in the morning, but I thought nothing of it (I had other things on my mind) as I filled out my paperwork.

I was taken back at 8am by a very friendly lady with a Spanish accent, who asked me how I was doing, and I explained how nervous I was and she said not to worry and they were here to help me. Then she took me to get an X-ray, where you stand up in this huge machine and bite on a stick, holding onto these bars. It takes a full picture of all your teeth in one long line. It took a while just to get this done because I wasn't activated on the computer yet and the lady had to wait and wait, until it was done.

Then she took me into my room and I laid down and watched Good Morning America. I never saw the first lady again. About a half hour later, some guy came in and asked me who I was as he checked the computer, and then asked me if I had my x-rays done. I said yes, but then he realized I hadn't gotten ALL of them done and he seemed irritated. He quickly took a bunch, shoving this rubber film in my mouth, until he finished. Then he left. I still have no idea who he was, since he never introduced himself to me.

About 15 minutes later, the same guy came back with an African-American woman dressed in a lab coat. She situated herself behind me, never introducing herself to me, and she stuck that sharp pointy scraper in my mouth testing for cavities. Luckily she didn't hurt me. She was yelling out numbers for each tooth and the guy was recording them on the computer. They finished and the woman told me someone would come in and tell me what they wanted to do and how much it would cost. Then they left.

Another 15 minutes passed when another African American woman came in and (yay!) introduced herself to me. She told me I had six cavities, and the doctor (who I hadn't met yet), wanted to do silver on top, white fillings on the bottom. Fine. I was actually relieved now, because the real doctor (that I had made my appointment with) had looked at my x-rays and was going to be working on me! I then asked about the sedation part, and the woman looked at me like I was crazy. Thanks for making me feel like a big baby. She said I probably wouldn't want to do it because it was $680 per hour, and I'd need someone to drive me home, etc. She then said the entire process of filling the cavities and the cleaning would take a half hour, so it would be pointless. I asked if it would hurt and she said hold on and she went to check. When she came back she said they could give me "laughing gas" and it would be bearable and my entire cost would be $150. I agreed since I wanted to get it over with.

I glanced at the clock when the woman left and it was 9:20am. I laid down and waited for the doctor. They first guy came back a few minutes later and said he was moving me to another room. I used the restroom and he prepped the room.

Time was ticking and no doctor. Finally, at 10am, the first guy and the African-American woman with the lab coat came back. So I'm guessing they are going to be doing the fillings and cleaning, not Dr. Ponce. Interesting. They got situated and the guy gave me oxygen first. It became apparent that he didn't know how much "laughing gas" to give me and the woman had to inform him and quite unprofessionally, right in front of me. Great. My confidence in their experience and abilities was declining.

The woman sat behind me and just started rubbing my gums with numbing gel without telling me what she was doing. Luckily the "laughing gas" took off the fear aspect, but it left me feeling upset that she was going to stab me with the novocain needle and not tell me. She did and repeatedly. The pain wasn't bad, but I was peeved.

Then they left. The clock on the TV read 10:15am. My mouth was completely numb within 5 minutes. As time ticked by panic struck. Again, luckily the "laughing gas" prevented me from jumping up and screaming that they better hurry up because soon I wouldn't be numb anymore. My mind started racing, but I tried to convince myself that these were professionals and they knew how long the novocain would last and not to worry. My eyes teared up with how upset I was when I looked at the clock at it read 11am. I was upset beyond words that my boyfriend was out there not knowing what was going on and was going to have to call in and be late for work. I was even more upset that when the African American woman with the lab coat came back in she didn't apologize. She commented on something on the TV and said she was going to have to do this alone. Great. Just what I wanted to hear.

She drilled my right side, then started on the lower left. She hit a nerve. Thus, the novocain had worn off. Big surprise! She said the lower was done anyway and started to drill the upper left. Another nerve! She gave me yet another poke with a needle. No apology. The other dude appeared and helped her with the fill of the right and lower left. Twice dropping filling material down my throat making me gag and spit up. I said I was swallowing something and all she said was, "oh it's just the material". Is that all?? Then she yelled at me to get my tongue out of the way or she wouldn't be able to finish. But my whole mouth was numb; I had no idea what my tongue was doing and there wasn't any way I could control it! The guy had to hold my tongue back, which is the only humorous part of the story.

They finally finished with the fillings (and now as I run my tongue over my teeth there are some huge divets that I don't believe belong there). After they turn off the light and sit me up, they realize they haven't done a cleaning and look at each other and shrug. I ask them pathetically with my swollen mouth and numb face if I can do the cleaning some other time because my boyfriend has to go to work. The time: 11:30am.

The guy escorts me out to the front desk and I make an appointment for Sat, knowing full well I won't ever be coming back to this horrid place again. I begin to cry as I leave with my boyfriend, horrified by my treatment, how long it took, and how incompetent the people who worked on me were. My boyfriend mentioned that he could tell how unorganized they were just by how the staff handled the people in the waiting room. He said he wouldn't go back either.

So, by noon...my face looks like I've gone three rounds with Layla Ali because of the novocain, and how much I cried. I spent 4 hours at the dentist, for something that should have taken at most, an hour, with substandard treatment and without even a cleaning. Plus, the dentist I made an appointment with didn't even work on me, or even have the decency to introduce herself to me.

I'm sorely disappointed. No wonder people don't go to the dentist. As a new patient, there on a recommendation, which I noted on the paperwork and when I made the appointment, I had a higher expectation of how I should have been treated. For one, as a nervous person, I should have been consulted by the doctor herself. Two, whoever comes into the room to work with me should introduce themselves. Three, the staff should be competant and confidant and FRIENDLY! Four, no matter what the staff performs they should tell me exactly what they are doing and why. Five, they should do it in an appropriate time frame. Four hours for what they did to me is inexcusable.

This has been the worst dental experience of my life, and I've had some doozies. Heck, I had braces, and the pain accompanied with that! But this had nothing to do with pain. It has everything to do with trust and good old-fashioned courteousness. No one cared about me, or what I felt while I was there. No one even asked me! The sad part is, I put my trust in them and my hard earned money. I was ready to spend a lot of money with these people if I liked them. I wanted to get my teeth whitened AND invisalign, which isn't cheap. But now, I didn't even call to cancel the appointment I had with them today. They wasted my time, why not waste a little of theirs.

Now I feel ANY dentist (even Steve Martin from Little Shop of Horrors) would be better than Las Vegas Oral Surgery. I'm also submitting a complaint to the Better Business Bureau and my insurance company. People shouldn't have to go through what I did.

Quote of the Day: Be obscure clearly. ~E.B. White

Sunday, January 18, 2009

regency kick

Upon finishing After The Kiss by Suzanne Enoch, my mind began racing with an idea I've had before, concerning a series that would most likely fall into the category of historical romance set in the Regency Era. I know these books wouldn't be Regencies, because honestly, I like my love scenes...

And I like em' intense!

Regencies tend to leave out those more detailed scenes and end with an embrace or kiss.
So...like I normally do when bludgeoned by an idea, I start reading everything in my power revolving around it.

After the Kiss was very well-written and a great story, but something about it just didn't excite me like I know some novels can. The plot was realistic and not over the top like some historicals can be, it had plenty of love scenes, developed characters.. I really can't put my finger on any one thing that made reading it anything but enjoyable. It just lacked...something.

But, it did remind me of the idea I mentioned above and made me dig in my notebooks to find it and jot down more notes.

In my TBR pile, I had a Georgette Heyer novel, and though I was supposed to start New Moon as soon as I finished After the Kiss (sorry Ariana), I couldn't help picking up A Lady of Quality and dive in. Three days later, I am reminded how amazing Georgette Heyer is as a writer and storyteller.

Her dialogue is masterful, especially with all the slang, terms and grammar of the Regency period. Her wit is unparallel, her characters fierce and her plots traditional, yet timeless. The only complaint I had was the tendency to head-hop, making the writing lose pace. Other than that, I remember why it can be important to research if you plan to write a novel. It makes it sooo much better!

And there was only kissing and embracing. I didn't really miss it, since I knew what I was getting into, but personally I wouldn't be able to write a novel without more....

Now, I'm almost done with Valerie King's A Country Flirtation, which I wasn't quite sure I would like because it started out pretty cheesy. Now, I'm really enjoying it and will probably finish it tonight.

I posted a couple requests for recommendations on the romance message boards and checked out the authors given. I was a little disappointed with the plots of a lot of them. I'm not a fan of the woman seducing the man, or of the rake who seduces a woman for her fortune then falls in love. Overdone! I'm looking for something original, but then, that's why I'm writing my own series, right? Still, I was able to find a couple that looked good, from author's like Elizabeth Boyle, Liz Carlyle, and Barbara Metzger.

Anyway, I'm looking for suggestions. Shae, you are the queen of Regency and historical romance, help me out here!

Otherwise, I finished notes for "Plot & Structure" by Bell and will provide them for anyone who would like them. Now onto the next...

Quote of the Day: Write down the thoughts of the moment. Those that come unsought for are commonly the most valuable. ~Francis Bacon

Sunday, January 11, 2009

the only 12 1/2 writing rules you'll ever need

courtesy of knowledge unlimited, inc. 2004
























Quote of the Day: No one means all he says, and yet very few say all they mean, for words are slippery and thought is viscous. ~Henry Brooks Adams, The Education of Henry Adams, 1907

Saturday, January 10, 2009

specific writing goals for 2009

REVISED January 2, 2009

Writing Goals for 2008

1) Complete first single title novel (100,000 words) – Tentative Title: COT by November 30, 2008 and submit to an agent.

a) Finish first draft by October 15, 2008 (1000 words per day) Finished first draft

2) Complete one category romance (50,000 words) by December 31, 2008 and submit to publisher or agent.

a) Characters done by August 31, 2008.
b) Plot done by September 10, 2008.
c) Outline done by September 15, 2008.
d) First draft done by November 15, 2008 (800 words per day) Finished first draft

3) Begin character and plot for second single title novel in series (100,000 words) - Tentative Title: TRT before end of the year. Did not complete this

a) Prepare synopsis.

Writing Goals for 2009

1) Complete COT by February 28, 2009.

a) Revise first draft by February 1, 2009.
b) Prepare synopsis and synopsis of other two novels in series for agents.

2) Complete TRT by April 31, 2009.

a) Finish first draft by March 31, 2009.

3) Complete first category romance (50,000 words) by February 28, 2009.

4) Complete third single title novel in series (100,000 words) – Tentative Title: WAED by June 31, 2009.

a) Prepare synopsis after character and plot work.

5) Complete second category romance (50,000 words) by April 30, 2009.

6) Complete fourth single title novel (100,000 words; new series or stand alone) by August 30, 2009.

7) Complete third category romance (50,000 words) by October 31, 2009.

8) Complete fifth single title novel (100,000 words) by November 30, 2009.

9) Complete fourth category romance (50,000 words) by December 31, 2009.

NINE BOOKS BY 2010!!! WOOHOO!!!

Quote of the Day: Do not put statements in the negative form.
And don't start sentences with a conjunction.
If you reread your work, you will find on rereading that a
great deal of repetition can be avoided by rereading and editing.
Never use a long word when a diminutive one will do.
Unqualified superlatives are the worst of all.
De-accession euphemisms.
If any word is improper at the end of a sentence, a linking verb is.
Avoid trendy locutions that sound flaky.
Last, but not least, avoid cliches like the plague.
~William Safire, "Great Rules of Writing"

Friday, January 9, 2009

dreaming big part II

Now where were we. I left off on Resolution #13...

13) Get a tattoo.
-This was one of my resolutions from 2007 that never came to fruition. I planned on getting a tattoo when I turned 30. I am 31, going on 32 and I NEED one. I have a couple ideas for what I want and where, but the big issue is that I'm a huge chicken when it comes to pain. I've probably mentioned this before. Isn't it ironic that the sexiest places to get a tattoo are also the most sensitive? Anyhoo, I've got a couple recommendations for artists and one day when I'm feeling brave I'll go for it.

14) Get finances in order.
-One problem with finding yourself by going to a variety of expensive schools is the extensive debt you accumulate from loans. These loans, if paid according to their schedule, will haunt me until 2027. I really don't want that. I want to pay off my credit card debt and tackle these loans with a more aggressive payment. To do this, I need to set up a budget and maximize what comes in and where it goes. I also need to start putting aside some money for the move to New England in the spring, which is a goal further down the list.

15) Take more photographs.
-I hate pictures of myself for the most part. But time is a passing, and I always think back to that Baz Luhrmann song, Everybody's Free to Wear Sunscreen, "in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before
you and how fabulous you really looked…" So just in case, I want to take more pictures - of me, of my friends, of my adventures - and if I could scrapbook them, even better.

16) Move to New England in the spring.
-Some of you probably know of my intention to move to Rhode Island. I visited my best friend, Ariana, who lives in Newport, last summer and realized how much I like it there and how much I miss her. I'm sick of Las Vegas and need someplace new to call home, if at least for a while. Newport's beautiful coast and small town feel really made me think how much I'd like to live there. The hard part is saving up some money for the move, and the hardest part will be finding a new job in this recession. I'm currently exploring my options. If I want it bad enough, I can make it happen. :-)

17) Travel
-This probably won't be happening this year with the move and all, but once settled back East, my mission is to get to Europe. Hopefully, I'll come back once I get there.

So those are my resolutions.

As for the updates on my writing: I'm reading two writing books and taking notes, while summarizing my novel chapter by chapter, to analyze my plot for holes and such. Once that's done, I may show the plot to a few people to get their opinion about the flow and intensity level, then I'll dig in to the specific revisions.

Oh and I made an appointment with Shae's dentist! Thank you, Shae, for recommending her. I have my initial exam and x-rays on January 22. Wish me luck! Now, to conquer the doctor.

Quote of the Day: For me, a page of good prose is where one hears the rain [and] the noise of battle. ~John Cheever

Sunday, January 4, 2009

dreaming big....

It's 2009 and when I set out to do something, I do it up right. I dream big. Sure, I don't always complete every one of my goals / resolutions, but the dream is still there.

I posted my resolutions on a website called 43 Things. (Yes, another social networking site to add to my never-ending list.) I added them down below on the right side, but I'll elaborate on them here.

1) Publish at least 3 novels this year.
-Technically, I'm behind from the original goal plan I set out for this, but I'm not disappointed with what I have accomplished so far. I revised the plan which I'll post next for your review. I'm still moving forward and that's what matters most to me right now. This resolution ties in with my ultimate goal of writing fiction for a living.

2) Go to the doctor.
- I'm ashamed to say I haven't been to see a doctor in a while. Before, the excuse was that I didn't have insurance. Now, (for the last two years) I've had insurance, and the excuse is that I'm just a big, lazy chicken. It needs to be done and I should be exploiting my insurance while I still can. No more excuses. I'm making an appointment this week.

3) Go to the dentist.
- I can't even say the word "dentist" without a grimace. I haven't been to the.....dentist, for years. Again, with the lack of insurance, but also because my teeth are just genetically hella bad. And not visually bad (like I'm missing five, and three are black). I have always had problems with waning enamel and exposed nerves. Combined with receding gums, every visit to the dentist, no matter how gentle they are, results in excruciating pain. Luckily, I rarely had cavities when I was younger. I did have braces, but that's a whole other painful animal. Also, I know that it will cost me tons, even with my insurance, because there's a lot to be done in there AND I NEED to be sedated the entire time, which means more mula. I guess I have to bite the bullet, so to speak, and get crackin'. This week an appointment will be made.

4) Learn one language a year.
-This goal was made hoping to hit two birds, or three, with one stone.
One, it will broaden my horizons.
Two, it will help me indirectly with English (considering the comparisons you automatically make regarding grammar and vocabulary.)
Three, it's research for my novels -heh, heh ;-)

The language I'm choosing for this year is Welsh. Mostly because I already have the book and the CDs and have dabbled in it. My next trilogy I am writing is a time-travel spanning from 1000 AD to today set in Wales. So it would help me greatly, even if I'm not fluent by the end of the year. Knowing the basics - hearty vocab, a couple neat sayings, and a few fun curse words - would be nice.

5) Get rid of things I don't need.
- My friend and fellow blogger, Maura, turned me on to this. "31 in 31" or getting rid of one item per day for the 31 days on January, and heck, maybe longer if need be. So far, I have gotten rid of 3 pairs of panties, 2 pairs of jeans, one pair of shoes, and 4 books. I'm definitely ahead of the game. Woohoo! This will help me declutter and prepare myself for moving in the Spring.

6) Follow an exercise program.
-I bought yet another exercise program. Yeah, motivation for me to get in shape comes in spending gratuitous amounts of money. But this one is simple and hip and includes some extra tips for keeping the feminine look as you slim and tone, rather than bulking up and losing all that luscious female form. It's a fitness and bikini model's routine and program. I like it and it inspires me. I WILL succeed! Will be posting my hideous "before" photo soon......maybe...if I have the courage to show myself in skimpy clothing....ugh.

One day I'll look like Jennifer Nicole Lee....but much paler. ;-)

7) Eat better.
-Continuing with the health resolutions, I plan to ditch the junk food, but indulge in cravings every so often. Eat smaller portions every 2-3 hours and only have soda once a week. Those portions will include protein, fiber, and something green.

8) Drink more water.

9) Drink more wine.
-OK, not to get drunk. Red wine is good with its antioxidants AND it's a passion I've let fall by the wayside. Did you know I went to culinary school for six months and excelled in the wine tasting classes as well as food pairing? They say I have a good palette. For a while I thought about becoming a sommelier and passed the first stage of testing to become just that. I then realized that a sommelier is just a glorified cocktail waitress. (I'm cringing, knowing I'm ruining my chances getting friendly with any of them. Oh well..) I love wine and I the history and science involved with wine. I plan to buy one bottle a week and write down tasting notes in my wine journal. Who knows? Maybe some freelance writing work will come of it.

10) Take care of my skin.
- The other day I looked in the mirror and grimaced. No, not at my pale, frumpy body, but at my face! My eyes seemed sunken, small, and puffy, and my skin was oily, caking my make-up and emphasizing my huge pores! I never had to worry much about my skin, even with my birthmark (I'll go into this later). I mean, I had to stay out of the sun due to my genetically pale and prone to cancer skin. And regardless of the numerous scars from doctors attempts to keep me cancer-free, my skin stayed soft and clear. I guess 31 hit me finally and instead of washing with regular soap and never moisturizing, I need to bring on the maintenance. I bought Carmindy's book, Get Positively Beautiful and I love it. Carmindy is the make-over queen from What Not To Wear, and I really dig her simple beauty regimine. So I'm following some of her techniques, which also tie into my next resolution.
11) Learn to use make-up to my advantage.
- Until this year, make-up and I have had a practical relationship. I hate it, but its a necessity to cover my birthmark. I have a port winestain (meaning strawberry colored) birthmark that covers my chin and a portion of my left cheek. I've managed to get through a difficult childhood and deal with it, even after failed laser surgery attempts and...a lot of make-up. I have to wear foundation and powder every day. I won't go outside without it. But it's routine now. I never used anything else - except a little lipstick to give my pale face a little color. So this aging thing sucks in more ways than one. And I've been experimenting with make-up to help enhance my beauty rather than cover it up. Carmindy's less is more style and tips are great, especially the ones that let me get out the door after five minutes of application and still look like a million bucks.

12) Save up for laser hair removal.
-Another perk of growing old...MORE HAIR! They've come a long way with these lasers and I want to get it done. It costs a pretty penny, so I'm hoping to get it done by the end of the year.

I'm going to end here for now. I have about 8 more to go, but this is already becoming a book. Speaking of....I think I'll go read.

Quote of the Day: It seems to me that the problem with diaries, and the reason that most of them are so boring, is that every day we vacillate between examining our hangnails and speculating on cosmic order. ~Ann Beattie, Picturing Will, 1989